When faced with a big decision like adoption you are sure to have lots of questions. Here are a few of the most frequently asked questions. Also, be sure to check out questions that you should ask yourself. Q: Can my parents stop me from choosing adoption? A: Adoption is your choice. This is your baby and you are the only one who will know if you can raise this child. Ultimately, you are the only one who can make this decision because it will directly affect you and your child for the rest of your life. An adoption agency can offer support. Q: Will anyone find out about the adoption? A: Your adoption plan is very confidential. Whom you share it with is strictly up to you. Q: What kind of financial assistance can I get? A: Each situation is different and each state has there own set of laws. Usually, the adoptive family will cover your medical bills. If you have Medicaid or insurance they will pay for anything not covered. You may find it helpful to contact an adoption agency as they will be able to help with the laws specific to your state. Q: How will I know my baby is being well taken care of? A: Adoptive parents go through vigorous screenings to ensure that they are suitable parents. On top of that you get the option of choosing the parents of your baby! Q: What is the difference between an open adoption and a closed adoption? A: Simply stated, an open adoption is when the family knows your last name, address, and phone number, and you know this information about the family. A closed adoption is when that identifying information is not exchanged. It is common in open adoptions for the adoptive family to mail pictures and letters to the birth parents. Some adoptions of this nature are very open, with the adoptive family and birth parents agreeing to periodic visits by the birth parents as the child grows. Q: Are people right when they say that this is selfish of me? A: Absolutely not. Giving a child a better life through adoption is the most unselfish and loving thing you could possibly do for them. You are allowing a couple to become a family and your child to have everything that life has to offer. Have pride in knowing it takes a very strong person to recognize that adoption is the best option for themselves and for the child. Q: What will my child think of me for placing him/her for adoption? A: Making an adoption plan is a courageous and unselfish way to show your child you love them if you are not prepared yet to parent yourself. If a woman is not ready to parent, adoption is the most loving solution to an unplanned pregnancy. It is a selfless decision that offers her child the love and security of a home that he or she deserves. Q: Am I doing what is best for my child? A: By putting your child up for adoption you are giving them a chance at a better life. Whether you are poor, unwed, or young or just unprepared, giving your child to a couple that is prepared to raise them is the most unselfish thing you could possibly do. Children need certain things, like the stability of a mother and father, a safe home, plenty of nutritious food, warm clothing, adequate medical care, and the proper education to ensure a successful future. If you doubt you can provide your child with these things you should consider adoption. Q: Where can I find a good adoption agency? A: A good place to start would be your local department of social services. You can find many great licensed agencies right on the internet as well.
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